The Four Motivators for Behavior

MOTIVATION NUMBER 2. Children NEED to be able to have a way to control.
This is the “I WANT IT NOW” NEED. Sometimes children do have immediate needs that must be filled. However, other times children want something immediately simply because they are children and cannot understand why you are saying “no.”
YOU NEED TO REMEMBER your child has “needs” and as a parent
you must decide if you are meeting those needs.
Children have physical or emotional needs that must be met or they will act out until those needs are met.
If a child is hungry or tired and you do not meet those needs a child may act out.
If a child is physically or emotionally hurt and you do not attend to those needs a child may act out.
If a child is sick and needs medical attention and you do not attend to the need, a child may act out.
Is it a need? Or is it simply something a child wants to have? If a child is hungry (and tantruming for ice cream) and uncooperative, they will become cooperative once they eat a healthy snack. If a child remains uncooperative - getting a tangible need met is not the motivator. You need to look at one of the other 3 motivators attention, sensory, or escape.
(will continue next week)

Eustacia Cutler          
Raising Temple Grandin -A Family Affair
  LIVE VIDEO CONFERENCE
August3, 2010 10:00 am - 1:00 PDT
(11:00 MDT, 12;00 CDT, 1:00 EDT)
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A LIVE VIDEO CONFERENCE WITH EUSTACIA CUTLER
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“There was no magic, there was just doing the best I could...
and never letting go of hope.”
OOOOOOOO EUSTACIA CUTLER
Eustacia Cutler is the mother of four children. Her oldest child is Temple Grandin, who is known as  the most  successful person with autism in the world today. Eustacia is a graduate of Harvard. She has been a band singer at the Pierre Hotel, New York City, performed and written for theater and cabaret, and written documentaries on disabilities for major television networks.
Her current book, "A Thorn in My Pocket" describes raising Temple in the conservative world of the 1950’s.
Eustacia was one of the first to tread new territory as she overcame the difficulties of “challenging the system." Like every parent, she wanted the best for her child. She understands the myth, reality, angst, and guilt a family experiences in society. She is where you will be in the future: looking back on the things you did to help your child.  When the “system” is not meeting the needs of your child, you must be creative and design your own program. Piece by piece, you and your child can develop a meaningful, interrelated reality. Eustacia will inspire you to reach beyond your current resources and make it work for you and your child.
A Thorn in My Pocket Get a personally autographed copy from our store. HERE
This excerpt from her book gives insight into what Eustacia felt as a mother.
'I’m practicing Bach at the piano and Temple, now perhaps 2 1/2 but still not speaking, is on the floor beside me, absorbed in crumpling a newspaper, humming to herself, squeezing the paper, watching it slowly spring open, shredding it, gazing at the pieces that float about her. I try to entice her with colored plastic cups and spoons, but she won’t look at me.
“See the bright colors? See how the cups fit together? Now the spoons. Isn’t that fun?”
She stares for a moment and returns to her newspaper. I tell myself that children find their own playthings and don’t have to be entertained with what we think of as toys. But she looks so forlorn, sitting there absorbed in her tattered plaything, sooty with newspaper ink. Like a slum child nobody cares for. My pretty baby with her blue eyes and blonde curls. She who would prefer me to leave her alone. The snub cuts deep. Eerie in her calm refusal to engage, she’s closed the door on me, polite but firm. And so with the best intentions we each neglect the other. Isolated, numb, we play it safe, I in my world, she in hers. But what is her world? I turn back to the Bach. I’m not very good at it, but it’s better than nothing. She hums. She’s humming the Bach.'

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Brown Bag Lunch with
Eustacia Cutler!

August 2, 2010 from 12:00-1:00 PM
St. James Episcopal Church
1410 Northeast Stadium Way
Pullman, WA
Bring your lunch and enjoy an hour with Eustacia Cutler-Mother of Temple Grandin. We will have her book, A Thorn in my Pocket, available for purchase. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity, don't miss it. If you have any questions call 866 326 4864. Cost for this event is by donation which will be accepted at the door. Childcare will be provided.

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